In 2009, I was introduced to The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Wisdom, a best-selling book written by Don Miguel Ruiz. I was so incredibly moved by the beautiful concepts instilled in this book that six years later, I still find myself using it for reference and reflection.
The agreements offer an entirely new perspective and outlook on life, suggesting that you rethink and reshape your mindset in a positive and liberating way. Publishers Weekly says, “The book advocates personal freedom from beliefs and agreements that we have made with ourselves and others that are creating limitation and unhappiness in our lives.”
The Four Agreements are as follows:
- Be Impeccable With Your Word.
“Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.”
This is imperative in building relationships, whether personal or professional, and most importantly, the one you have with yourself. Avoid rumours, office gossip and negative self-talk. Doing so creates an affirmative vibe that shifts your entire energy spectrum.
- Don’t Make Assumptions.
“Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.”
Are you unhappy with your job? Want a promotion? Need an assignment extension? Don’t agree with something your roommate is doing? Most likely, it’s not that people don’t want you to have what you want – they just simply don’t know what you want. Being crystal clear with your intentions can do wonders.
- Don’t Take Anything Personally.
“Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”
How often do we sit and scrutinize what someone said about us? When we begin to learn that the opinions and actions of others are a reflection of themselves, not an indication of the truth, we start to become free and liberated from negativity that is energy and time wasting.
- Always Do Your Best.
“Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”
One day, you might be on the ball: worked all day, completed all your assignments, attended all your meetings, ate healthy, took care of your family, and even had energy to go to the gym after! Then, there are other days when you want nothing more than to curl up in a ball and stay in bed. Not every day will feel like the former. What’s important is that you give it 100% anyway. Your best may fluctuate, but don’t let your spirit sway.
Applying these simple, timeless philosophies to your everyday life will allow you to let go of negative or wasteful energies, allowing your inner potential and greatness to gleam.
– Sozanny Chea
Executive Office Administration ‘12